This question comes from Danny in NYC.  He writes,

QUESTION:  I found out that my girl was cheating on me with this cat that she works with.  I’ve seen this dude before – he’s a punk and I could kick his ass in my sleep so I’m thinking about going to their office on Monday to mess him up.  What do you think?

TREY SAY:  So let me get this straight – you’re thinking about going to their place of business to trade fists with this guy?  Really?  Yeah, that’s a great idea.  Make sure you’ve got the extension of a representative at 1-800-Bail-Bonds or else you’ll be dining on your cellmate’s “penis and pillow” combo in jail waiting for someone to bail your stupid ass out after you get arrested for battery and trespassing. 

I’ve come across this situation many times with dudes, and for some reason they ALWAYS want to go after the other man.  Why?  Your woman was the one that betrayed you, why not go after her first?  Yeah, I know it’s a machismo thing, but the dude is doing what any single guy would do if a piece of ass is thrown in his face.  Your focus needs to be directed towards her.  As always, I have a plan for you.

Play dumb with her for a little bit.  Ask a few questions about work and about some of her co-workers and see how she reacts.  If she totally denies everything and acts like nothing is wrong, then you might have to take it to the next level.  I’m sure you’ve watched that show Cheaters, right?  Play the private investigator role and see if you can get a picture of the two of them together kissing, holding hands, etc.  Once you have the proof, then you can confront both of them at once.  At that point, you’d get the green light from me to kick his ass on the spot.  I actually saw this happen on TV once – after the confrontation, wait for a few days and then go to the local pet store and purchase 50 baby rats.  While she’s at work, let ‘em loose in her apartment.  OK, I’ll admit that I never saw that on TV, but since you’re dumb enough to want fight this guy in his own office, I figured you’d be dumb enough to try that, too.  I have always been curious about how that would go down in a real-life situation., so let me know how that works out for you.